Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Blue...

Today sucks. It does and it always will. The part that sucks anyway. It is supposed to be, and started out, an awesome day. 8 inches of snow, no school, fuzzy jammies, a mission to decorate for Christmas. I love having all the lights up and the tree decorated and sitting by the fire snuggled up with Patric or the kids or a warm cup of cocoa. I love it, I do.

But gawd...everywhere I look, it is just so painful. We are rearranging for the tree to fit and the mention of moving a piece of furniture into the bedroom came up. I shrieked inside. I don't want to move ANYthing in my room. It's where the crib is, the changing table, all the stuff I need(ed) for Chase to come home. I thought I was doing okay...but when it came up to move some of that stuff around I realized I am not. I'm not ready for that. The reason we moved the furniture OUT of our room in the first place was to make room for baby. I hate it. It hurts. This season should be so incredibly happy and fun right now. What should be.....
I am cleaning up everywhere getting ready to take stuff to storage so we can bring all the decorations back. I came across a box of clothes. Old clothes the girls grew out of...and then a bag of misc. clothes and stuff. It dawned on me that it was a bag of stuff that the "friends" that came into the house to clean up for me when Chase died had collected and didn't know what to do with so they just put it somewhere. I had put it "away for now" several months ago. Ouch, coming across that was a painful reminder. I picked out the stuff that was never meant to be thrown away and threw away the rest.
I think about Christmas last year and how pregnant I was. I can remember my belly being in the way all the time...I felt so huge. I remember being pregnant so vividly, I could almost feel it.
Today is tough. I think this holiday is going to be very tough. I could cry at the drop of a hat. I find myself talking outloud to Chase now, when no one is around. I am picturing him hovering around the room following me.....I look at my photos and I am so sad. I feel like time is slipping away so quickly and I know he is growing up, changing and I am only going to have a memory of him as a newborn baby. I don't know what he looks like now or how he is changing. Can someone up there just send me a photo every now and then? I want to look at a tangible memory...I am so confused when I try to think for myself what he must look like.
All of this just hurts so bad. I want him here. I want him with us. I want to be happy. I want life to be the way it used to. I miss you Chase. I miss you so much it hurts. Kisses to you sweet boy.

11 comments:

  1. Oh Christy, I feel your pain. Sending you lots and lost of HUGS! Check your email in a bit. I am sending you something. xo

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  2. Feeling for you, Christy. The Holidays are extra tough... if that is possible.

    Please don't push yourself. If you are not ready to move Chase's things... don't. I didn't open the nursery for several, several months.

    xo

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  3. I completely understand and I'm sorry for the pain you're in and that Chase is not with you. Don't move the furniture until you're ready. We could use the space in Mackenzies room too but we'd have to make due if she were here so it stays where it is. I'm faaaar from ready for that and I hope no one pushes you to do what you're not ready for either!
    ((hugs))
    Ashley

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  4. Christy--

    In reading that, I feel like you are at the same point that I was at last year. I waited until mid-December to decorate because I was just too sad. I didn't want Christmas to come because it was suppossed to be happy and it was anything but that. Know that this year will be tough -- really tough. Especially the holidays. But you will get through it. And getting through it gives you confidence for the future. And when you have confidence you are stronger and more able to navigate situations instead of just being flattened by them. Tiny steps my friend. Take tiny steps and you will get there.

    Hugs,
    Trisha

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  5. I'm sorry you have all the reminders around you. They can make it hurt so bad. (((hugs)))

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  6. I know exactly how you feel. Sending prayers asap! *HUGS*

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  7. I am so sorry, I pray for your comfort. It is so hard to see so many in pain and not be able to help you. ((HUGS))

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  8. I am sending you lots of hugs and love. I wish I could say something grand to ease your pain Christy. I'm here.
    Lots of love,
    Kristy

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  9. I can feel your pain. I wish you didn't know this pain, I wish none of us knew this pain. I wish so much that Chase was here with you this Christmas. He isn't here in person, but he is here in spirit. I wish I could do more to ease your pain. xo

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  10. Christy, Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and for your kind words. You are welcome again anytime.

    Btw, I went to middle school out there, and spent my weekends with my father who still lives at the top of Center st. I loved living there as a child, and maybe one day we will consider returning for good. As for now, we are getting excited about our trip up for Christmas.
    I can't wait to see the old town...

    I hope you don't mind that I have read a bit of your blog. It is a very beautiful and loving one. I just wanted to let you know that my thoughts and many prayers are with you and your family.

    ~kimme

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  11. Thinking about Christmas is so hard while we're missing our precious babies. I'm so sorry Chase isn't there with you. Thinking of you.

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